Pookey

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Anyone else taking care of elderly mom? Anyone else going crazy? Just wondering - thought ideas could be shared on a few things like how to get them to drink water or what to do when they are a bit delusional. How to keep your temper in check, not to mention your fear.
 

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For my mom the water one that works for her is the Celestial seasonings Fruit Tea Sampler. I make it for her as Ice tea. She likes some of the fruit flavors. It has no Caffeine and I don't think anything harmful in it. Mom will drink it most days. As for the others I would be happy to here your ideas.
 
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Yep me. yes crazy
For my mom the water one that works for her is the Celestial seasonings Fruit Tea Sampler. I make it for her as Ice tea. She likes some of the fruit flavors. It has no Caffeine and I don't think anything harmful in it. Mom will drink it most days. As for the others I would be happy to here your ideas.
I like the tea idea. The problem I have though is that mother wants me to measure out her daily water. But then she swears everyone is adding to it all the time. Then she refuses to drink anymore and she has only had like half. She is a bit obsessive compulsive. A retired musician. But then she sometimes just doesn’t know what is real. She gets nauseated if she doesn’t eat with her meds but then refuses to eat sometimes until she has had her meds.
I don’t have very many ideas on my own. Just muddling through it.
I will try the tea idea. I know she likes peach tea so maybe I can find something similar with no caffeine
 

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My mom always eats. It was just getting her to drink her water quota. I am lucky that most of the time my mom will believe me if I tell her she has had her pills or not. That must make things so much harder.
 

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My mom eats well too. Just the water is a big issue. But the not believing me causes big big problems. Can even write stuff down and she still won’t believe me. Sigh
 
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This one might seem a little crazy, but I was told this by my mother's professional carer, and it certainly seemed to be backed up by experience.

One time when my mother simply wouldn't eat her lunch of macaroni chees (something she had always liked) the carer mentioned that research she had been reading reported that patients with dementia are influenced by colour. They will eat foods which are bright, bold and primary colours, but will not eat things which are pale, pastel colours. Strange but apparently true. So for example my mother would eat something like spagetti bolognase, (with it's red/orange sauce) but not the aforementioned pale yellow macaroni cheese. Add more cheddar chees, to make it a bolder orange colour, and she would eat it.
 
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Pookey

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Lol I thought you were to say you put blue food coloring in it or something!!🙂
 
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Best thing: fingerfood - my mum had dementia and at the end she couldn't eat alone anymore but with fingerfood she still could.
Warm meal (lunch) was not really possible so she needed help with that.
But breakfast and diner: bread with meat/jam/... in tiny pieces (try to cut them same size) fruit, biscuits: same thing - also lots of vegetables are in babysize now, like baby carrots.
Watermelon: very good too if problems with drinking.
Temper: always count to ten or more if needed, before you act/react on something your mum does :)
 
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Mom so far is ok with food although she insists on wearing a bib. But that is good info for later on I am sure. Counting to ten: duh wish I had thought of that but honestly I didn’t. I will consciously try to do that from now on. I am betting it will really help!
 

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But popsicles, frozen pops, jello, all are water based and if she's balking at plain water, make it more fun.
 

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But popsicles, frozen pops, jello, all are water based and if she's balking at plain water, make it more fun.
lots of sugar in those though, and lots of elderly people have diabetes
 

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I have never seen the water balls before. I will check that out.

And will count to 10, 12, 15, sometimes 20.
 

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I have never seen the water balls before. I will check that out.
I saw them on an elder program, a man's' Mom refused all water but would gobble up the water balls made with her favorite fruit flavors. I'd imagine you could make them with something like Pedialyte or other medically approved liquids if they are dehydrated.

I finally found the link to the one I saw: https://blog.thealzheimerssite.greatergood.com/jelly-drops/
 
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I found that putting a little sugar free flavoring or juice in the water helped also I switched to smaller bottles or glasses not so overwhelming for him.
The key to not getting angry is that you are now dealing with two personalities your loved one and the diseased personality. Most important is don't get confrontational distract and then go back to issue later. Your loved one isn't trying to be difficult but may be really trying inside to help but unfortunately can't remember how to make it happen. Showing him how to do things was much more useful once he couldn't respond to my request. My husbands specialist recommended a book which I highly recommend especially if early stages its called 36 hour day has a lot of tricks. Most of all take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up. Good Luck
 
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